Leaders move past allowing their surroundings to dictate who they will be, and create their identity based on who they WANT to be.
A huge hurdle in my life and in coaching leaders in general is cracking the code on change.
It's not just a desire to change, but the decision to change coupled with the discipline to follow through.
I have recently been reading some amazing information about different stages people go through when trying to change.
One of the models is by a man named Robert Kegan, an American developmental psychologist and author who also consults in the area of professional development. It's really one of the most fascinating things I've read in a while.
It was also very sobering.
According to Kegan, stage four is called the independent self and only twenty-five percent of adults ever get to this stage. Basically seventy-five percent never leave stage three, which is when people find their identity based on their surroundings—-as opposed to their identity being based on who they want to be.
Isn't that interesting?
How many of you are feeling like you are still being controlled and influenced mostly by your environment?
Here are a couple other points:
Kegan says in order to transition to this stage, "people can no longer ignore or distort the call of the soul."
By the way, this is a completely secular textbook.
"They face the fact that following their own path often means disappointing others, risking failure and/or contradicting the norms"
"People at this stage may begin to focus diligently on self-development as well as the development of others."
Now here is something way cool. At stage six, Kegan calls this stage, "the sacred self."
Kegan also notes, "Research suggests that spiritual practices such as meditation and contemplative prayer accelerate the development through stages two through five. Level six does not develop without long-term spiritual practice."
In this secular textbook, Kegan addresses that 1percent of adults reach fulfillment in who they are ONLY by turning to "spiritual" practices.
That's where Christian coaching has a leg up on other coaching. We believe that only by the Spirit, can we truly become who God wants us to be.
Leaders fight to change.
Leaders figure out their identity and then change.
Leaders move past allowing their surroundings to dictate who they will be, and they create their identity based on who they WANT to be.
Are you ready to be part of the twenty-five percent?
Tyler Reagin is the Director of Catalyst, which exists to challenge, equip and unify leaders who love the Church through impactful content and experiences. To learn more about attending a gathering near you, check out CatalystConference.com or speak to a Catalyst Concierge at (888) 334-6569.